So where are some of those non-naturists coming from? At least the ones we hope may one day join our naked community. Maybe, the best starting point would first be to ask ourselves – Where did we come from?’ I truly can not speak for anyone except for my wife Susanne and myself, but I wager our storyline is not very different from lots of other folks. So with that in mind, I ‘ll share a bit about where we came from.

Susanne and I came from a sexually hushed textile’ world. This issue of sexuality was almost nonexistent in family discussions. We can’t attribute the sexual silence in both our families on a generally common anti-sex culture nope! Susanne grew up a continent and ocean away from me. She lived in a sexually liberal, non-spiritual, middle class family in the property of FKK (free body culture) Germany. I grew up in an ultra-traditional, religious, middle class family in rural Upstate New York, near Ithaca in the Finger Lakes. Unexpectedly, in neither household, liberal or , was the word sex uttered in polite company.
Sex education in her family came in the form of a pill (the pill). In Germany, a girl was quietly handed the pill at puberty because it was assumed that sex is what you are doing. Whether she desired it or not any regular boyfriend would insist and it was her job to give it to him if she needed a social life. Pleasing the boyfriend in this way is peculiarly patriarchal for this type of liberal family. What a superficial, oppressive perspective of sex merely give it but do not forget the pill. That has been the variation of her sex education in the liberal German culture.
On the other hand, in my old-fashioned family, all matters sex was simply anathema. One did not talk about sex other than the single obligatory birds and bees chat which was more confusing than helpful. It was supposed that healthy sex would just happen naturally once you were married. No need for parents to talk or teach anything about it as the process of osmosis was assumed operating for sex education.
Quiet was the lowest common denominator regarding sexuality in both our cultures. Usually the most chilling, most contentious topics are the ones that don’t get talked about. Consequently, silence, in just about everything, goes together with doubt, fear, misunderstanding and insecurity. When folks are whispering behind your back, you don’t know what they’re saying and consequently it must be awful! Yup, the subject of sex is not any different. The worst thing parents of backgrounds can do in regards to sex would be to remain silent. Most parents can not get past their own sexual and body acceptance hang ups and as a result, they end up passing them on to their kids through the deafening sounds of sexual silence.
Comprehending sexuality, having healthy body acceptance and ultimately healthy sexual relations isn’t a issue of liberal vs. conservative cultures both teams look equally afraid of it. Actual sexuality and relationships has to do with accurate body acceptance and unconditional love. It gets beyond . One has to be raw, truthful, nakedly vulnerable to teach and find out about real sexuality. This approach transcends superficial, societal, political, or zealous spiritual alignments and / or lifestyles for example “conservative” or “liberal.”

Sex is one of the most bantered about matters, but the least understood. Behind all of society’s sexual sound is an astounding vacuum of significance. The quiet is maddening. For us, it translated into serious inhibitions that prevailed in our union for years.
Quiet is a shroud of negative puzzle. It foments anxiety, guilt, shame and misinterpretation. It wasn’t until we became naturists, got nude, accepted our bodies, our sexuality and that of others that we began to completely comprehend and lose those damaging inhibitions that had been holding us back for years. Dropping these inhibitions is a process. It truly is liberating. It’s what allowed us to begin afresh; the growth of a considerably richer, heavier satisfying sexuality in our own relationship and ultimately a renewed marriage covenant. We fell in love again.
You’ll find many people who are suffering from all types of inhibitions. Many have problems about their bodies, their sexuality, their dearth of independence and fulfillment. They may be prisoners of these inhibitions stamped into them by sexual silence, negative sexual teaching and in some cases – sexual abuse. This occurs despite all the sexual noise and the abundantly available nudity and pornography in our culture today. There looks like a gigantic vacuum of real love, real recognition, real kindness, and real executing sexuality.
Thus, when folks consider attempting naturism it’s not as simple as just getting nude. Their reality is like onion skins multi-layered. They know something is lost, hidden under the layers, but they do not know what. Against this emptiness, naturism really represents something different, something optimistic.