I am glad to see that you just understand including the photos of your sons was contrary to your message.

But I still have a problem with your original message to girls. I ‘m the father of two young girls myself, so this hits close to home.
First things first.
1) For one, it seems that you’re not wearing a bra.
Umand why is this a problem? Must all women who post pictures of themselves online be wearing a bra? How is it that you’re so fixated on a girl’s breasts that you *see she isn’t wearing a bra*? At what age should we begin requiring girls to wear bras? Or how large should their breasts be before wearing a bra is required?
Do you see what http://purenudism2017.com/nudist/nudist-families-pussy.php am getting at here? The whole basis of your proposition is founded on the subjective interpretation of pictures. And I find the breast-fixation especially difficult. But more on that later.
2) Those posts don’t represent who you are! We think you are wonderful and interesting, and usually very smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what http://tetyk.com/tube/nudist/ were attempting to do? Who are you attempting to reach? What are you trying to say?
Why do you care? Is she injuring herself? Is she posting pictures of herself taking drugs? If so, then by all means, sound the alarm! But you understand what I believe she is doing? I believe she’s figuring out her body. And good for her. Because she’s happy enough with her body to put photographs of herself online. And chances are her friends have seen this much of her if they have ever seen her in a bathing suit. The fact that the picture is taken in the bedroom is immaterial.

And it is great that you think she’s lovely and intriguing. But have you told her that? Have any of her friends told her that? Imagine what now would be a great time! Our media are obsessed in presenting unrealistic representations of women, and these young girls are being constantly bombarded by hypersexualized caricatures of themselves. You know who gets labeled as wonderful and fascinating by the media? Miley Cyrus. That is who. So instead of blocking your son’s friend’s graphics, why don’t you have your son tell her she’s wonderful and interesting?
3) I understand your family would not be thrilled at the idea of my adolescent boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a man finds you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it? You do not need the Hall boys to just think of you in this sexual way, do you?
And how just is it the girl’s fault that your sons see her in a sexual way?
You know what’s interesting about being human? Hundreds of years ago, before modern medicine, humans lived until about the age of 40 if they were lucky. I mean, 40 was really old. This is why humans are effective at reproducing as early as 12 or 13 years old. Because that is when people had to begin reproducing if they were going to live long enough to ensure their children survived to adulthood.
Fast-forward to modern times, and guess what? Kids still begin to develop sexually at about the same age as they did hundreds of years past. But what’s different is that we have developed all of these rules and expectations about how children can *express* that sexuality. I am not in any way advocating that we should let children start having sex that early. But what I *am* saying is that it’s entirely unrealistic to expect our kids to completely discount their bodies as they are starting to change.
Also have you taught your sons the dissimilarity between state of undress and sex? They are two things, you know. Nudity is not a condition for sex, and sex is not a prerequisite for nudity. God created us all nude. Clothing is our own human invention. God did not mean us to feel ashamed while we are in a state of undress, even if we’re in the presence of others.
Here is an exercise for you and your family: research nudism and/or nudism collectively. (They’re closely related both involve the practice of nonsexual nudity. Your research will allow you to comprehend the little differences between them both.)
4) RUN to your accounts and take down anything that makes it easy for your male buddies to picture you naked in your bedroom.
Again, I’ll bring out the swimsuit argument here. Listen, I was a teen boy once. Believe me, it requires HARDLY ANY help to picture a girl naked in her bedroom. If they’ve seen their female friends in swimsuits, online photos aren’t going to make much difference.
To conclude, I think there are a couple of lessons here:
First, educate your sons that girls are their equals in every way.
Second, educate your sons (and daughters) that the same rules apply online as in real life regarding bullying. If you can not say something nice, don’t say anything at all.
As an adult, I have loads of friends on Facebook who I do not always agree with. But I don’t call them names, and I don’t block them. Individuals express themselves in different ways.
We should educate our children these things because most individuals who are sexually assaulted are assaulted by someone they know either a friend or a relative.

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